by Barbara Rogers To begin with — a quote by Judith Herman: “Forgiveness is a relational process. “‘I forgive you’ is the response to a heartfelt apology and request for forgiveness,” Herman says. If the apology is never made, the process of forgiveness cannot take place. And “genuine contrition in a perpetrator is a rare…
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Incest—answered with silence
several years of silence have passed between me and my family when my youngest brother visits me in Chicago to reconnect my mother never tries—finally I write her to reestablish contact taking upon myself any blame for years of silence—she answers and for some time a few letters go back and forth during this time…
Liberation from guilt
by Barbara Rogers I wrote this therapy after I had reconnected with my mother after years of no contact between us. We had exchanged some letters when in my therapy work the memory of incest came up—a year after my father had died and as I began to trust my second husband deeper. My mother’s…
My body’s comment
by Barbara Rogers Read here: A love letter to my anger After I thought I had finished this love letter to my anger, I had the following experience. When I got up from my desk, content after several hours of working and having completed my “love letter to my anger,” I suddenly had a backache. The…
A Love Letter to My Anger
(You can read here what my body commented shortly before I published this letter) My dearest anger! There are people who tell me that I may not feel you. They judge you as if you were something bad that I must get rid of. They suggest that I am resentful when I experience you and…
Other responses to Alice Miller
English responses to Alice Miller Sabine’s response – Obliteration (English) Mia’s response Fran’s response when seeing the truth and feeling the rage is not enough roots of powerlessness no idea is ever worth that even one human life be sacrificed for it response by Pam Jacobs Barbara: “escape from the fog of admiration” Explore related content:Kapitel…
Ihre Entgegnung an Alice Miller
Liebe Barbara, nun muss ich Ihnen doch einmal schreiben, nachdem ich Ihren Essay “Ausbruch aus dem Nebel der Bewunderung” gelesen habe. Sie haben recht, es stimmt etwas nicht in dem Werk Alice Millers, jedenfalls an manchen Konzepten, ohne, dass man so genau sagen kann, was es eigentlich ist. Es ist Ihnen gelungen, sich unabhängig zu…